Blogpost 2: What makes bullies tick?

On the first post, we tackled on what bullying is. This time, it's about why do they become bullies. Think about it. Why DO they become bullies? Anybody who has experienced being bullied will definitely have this question in their minds. What makes them tick or what good do they get when they do all this stuff. 

There are even thoughts of revenge on their mind like "Let's see how he does it." or "What if I do that too?" or "". These cases are even worse than the ones above. Why? Because these are the thoughts the poison the mind of one and slowly turn said person into a bully, often worse than the one who bullied him earlier. 

So what turns children into bullies?

Poor Quasimodo.

In What breeds a bully? by Geraldine Kessel of Extension News, she mentioned ways to stop this by reflecting on one's character at home. Being nicer to children and how you respond to situations. She also mentioned the tone and volume of the voice affects what a child learns. Basically, one must become a good example to others

She also said that "studies show that the problem is generally triggered by something in the youngster's environment." True, as it may range from abusive parents, being victimized by another bully and wanting revenge, influences from either media or peers, the desire to be popular or just plain curiosity.One must be aware of the child's environment. Really, it depends on the person. Plus, the author also mentioned ways to stop this by reflecting on one's character at home. Being nicer to children and how you respond to situations.

There is another post by James Lehman of Empowering Parents entitled Why Do Kids Children Teens Bully and How to Stop Bullies. He says that there are many ways to bully someone. There are even less subtle ways like verbally and passively, controlling others through verbal insults and making people feel small. He says that they imply that they have something that may destroy their reputation or worse. These kinds become manipulative and boss everyone around.

The author says that "When a bully feels powerless and afraid, he's much more likely to be aggressive, because that makes him feel powerful and in control." It's true as everyone has a sense of control within them and when continuously being bullied, they find ways to regain a sense of control. This is what starts bullying. But if the bully is stopped early on, it wouldn't happen. Thus, the quote is true and is basically what makes people start bullying others.. 

The ball is our hands now.